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please...someone...anyone!! - 04-14-2009, 08:47 PM

hey everyone, I really need some help. This guy forced me to have sex with him and then he continued to blackmail me in order to make me do it again. i went to the police last night, but I had only told them about the first time he did it. I didnt want to hurt my case by letting them know it went on more than once. Anyways, he's now telling the detectives that it was CONSENSUAL!!! Nobody believes me since i left out the entire story. I didnt do EVERYTHING in my power to stop him, but i was scared and confused...i didnt' know what to do. can someone...anyone tell me wat i should do!

don't mind me...i just LAUGH to keep from CRYING
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04-14-2009, 10:58 PM

You should be able to ammend/add to your statement at any time. When it comes to things like this, it's really your word against his, sadly enough.

Don't say "I didn't do EVERYTHING in my power to stop him". You were scared and confused, as you said, and it may've impared your abilities to stop him.

Do you mind if I ask, why do you think it'd hurt your case by saying it went on more than once? If anything, it should strengthen it.

This is the end... Beautiful friend, the end...
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04-17-2009, 12:49 PM

If i can be so bold what do he use to blackmail you
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04-17-2009, 04:58 PM

Consent is agreement, permission, or willingness to have contact of a sexual nature.
Consenting is saying 'yes' without threats, coercion or emotional blackmail.
A person has the right to change their mind at any time during a sexual encounter. If someone says "no", "stop", "I'm not sure I want to do this" or through words or behaviour implies no, then you no longer have consent. You must stop. Pushing someone away, moving the other's hands, trying to get away, resisting or putting clothes back on are all signs of refusal.
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