		Face the Issue Forums > FTI Blogs > the real me
the all famous guilty-card

the real me

Creation Date: 04-08-2008 01:47 PM

my place to write things I can't even tell my friends

Options

the all famous guilty-card

posted 01-17-2010 10:10 AM by kyrena

ok so this is what happened. My mom and dad were to visit my aunt and uncle and they left the decision to me whether I would come along or not.
So yesterday evening my mom asked me if she had to wake me up at a certain time and I asked why. She said she just asked. So this morning she woke me up and said I needed to get ready to visit my aunt and uncle. BUT I never said I would go. So I went downstairs and said, in the presence of my dad, that I won't go. So she immediately said 'why not?' 'they're not going to like that you didn't come along' yadda yadda yadda. She always does that. She still thinks that pulling the guilt-card is going to get her what she wants. My dad simply said that it was up to me to decide. So I told her she should stop pulling the guilt-card every single time I don't want to go. So they went.. and after they got back the first thing my mom said was 'guess what they asked when we were there?' I 'what?' 'they asked where you were' and I was like ARGH YOU ASFJGHDSJGFALDSGF! why can't she just leave me alone! well.. my first thought was were the hell is my tool so I can cut.
The thought of later on showing the cuts and saying 'look what you did' makes me laugh, but it's not exactly her fault and I wouldn't do it either rest assured. I just wish she would quit making me feel guilty for everything. It's bad enough that I have trouble saying no to people she doesn't need to rub it in.
I already knew this was going to happen yesterday.. it just sucks that my expectations were met. Gods I need some distraction. atleast I don't feel like throwing up anymore

4 Comments

« Previous Entry | the real me | Next Entry »

Comments (4)

#1 posted 01-18-2010 01:17 AM by Voltaire

To be honest that exact same thing happened to me. My parents this past Christmas break asked if I wanted to go to lunch up in Wyoming with my aunt and older cousin, that we would drive for a few hours to have lunch for an hour and then drive back. And I told her that rationally, I didn't think that sounded like worthwhile time and that I would rather not. She started being all "but I'm sure they want to see you, they were very specific about seeing -you-".

#2 posted 01-18-2010 01:19 AM by Voltaire

And then I actually did tell her I would go-but she ended up leaving without me anyway, lol. I know just how frustrating the situations like that can be like why ask me for my opinion if you are not going to listen, type of thing. But it definitely is not worth cutting or punishing yourself for. My mom and I had a long talk after all this happened and even though it was painful it ended up being helpful in the end. Maybe you should talk to your mom about it.

#3 posted 01-18-2010 03:24 PM by kyrena

thankfully'I've become pretty good at distracting myself lately so that helps along with talking to other people about it ^^ I actually have talked about it with my mom in the past but no matter what I try she still doesn't understand it nor does she change the way she acts. She just can be a bit mean when she doesn't get her way I guess ^^;;

#4 posted 01-18-2010 03:28 PM by kyrena

My parents were very specific in us attending family visits in the begining.. my mom still is. In my dad's opinion it doesn't matter as long as you attend the obligated family things. I remember one time when my mom wanted me to go somewhere along with me and my sis and my sis refused to go if I went as well ^^; so I ended up not going -.- my sis and I really don't get along ^^