What are the
symptoms of abuse?
Does your mom, dad, sibling, girlfriend or boyfriend:
• Seem like two different people, constantly switching between
• Act extremely jealous of others who pay attention to you, or
use jealousy to justify his/her actions?
• Make fun of you, put you down, or embarrass you in front of
• Control your friends and/or your behavior emotionally or sexually?
• Have a history of bad relationships or past violence, always
blame his/her problems on other people, or blame you for "making"
him/her treat you badly?
• Push, slap, bite,kick or choke you?
• Try to get you drunk, high or messed up or try to get you alone
when you don’t want to be?
• Try to control you — by being bossy, not taking your opinion
seriously, making all of the decisions about who you see, what you wear,
what you do, etc. ?
• Threaten to kill you or commit suicide?
• Talk negatively about people in sexual ways or talk about sex
like it’s a game or a contest?
• Stop you from seeing or talking to friends, family or limits
your outside involvement?
Unfortunately, without help, the violence will only get worse. If you
think you might be in an abusive relationship, please call the National
Domestic Violence Hotline or your local domestic violence center to
talk with someone about it.
If you answered yes to any of these questions, you may be involved in
a relationship that is physically, emotionally or sexually abusive. For
more information: National Domestic Hotline http://www.ndvh.org/
Hotline Number: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
How much do you know about abuse?
Take the quiz and find out.
How to get help in your state?
For more information check out:
When Love Hurts. A guide for girls on love, respect and abuse in relationships
Love Is Not Abuse. A very informative and interesting site http://www.loveisnotabuse.com
Love Doesn’t Have to Hurt. American Psychological Association website
on teen dating violence http://www.apa.org/pi/pii/teen/contents.html
In the Mix: Twisted Love. PBS show on dating violence with Neve Campbell
If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted, call the National
Sexual Assault Hotline, operated by RAINN <http://www.rainn.org>,
at 1-800-656-HOPE for free, confidential counseling. Help is available